Monday, August 27, 2012

10 Tips to Relieve Stress and Release Tension

Relieve Stress, Release Tension

Stress and tension seem to be an integral part of life. Wherever you go, they go after you. There is stress and tension at work, at home and in relationships. There is stress and tension due to health problems, and stress and tension brought about by one’s financial situation.

Sometimes, you can eliminate or change the external cause, and sometimes you cannot. Often, when you cannot change the external cause, you become more stressed. If you can deal with the external cause that’s okay, but what if you cannot?

Dealing with stress and tension should begin from within you. External causes might be the trigger for them, but in most cases, your attitude and thoughts are the real causes. You may not always be able to deal with external condition, but you can certainly teach yourself to change your attitude. With a change of attitude, stress and tension would disappear, irrespective of your external conditions.


Take two different people, with different mental attitudes, and put them in the same conditions. If you observe their behavior, you will see two different attitudes. One might get stressed easily, feels exhausted, and dwells on negative thoughts, while the other person remains calm, relaxed, happy and energetic.

Two Ways to Deal with Stress and Tension
There are ways to release stress and tension after they appear, and there are ways to prevent them from being created. There are certain things you can do when you experience them, something like first aid, and there are methods that prevent stress and tension from coming into existence at all.
The first aid method consists of certain small things that reduce the stress and tension, while the other method requires inner work, over a period of time. The second method brings more permanent results, resulting in a changed attitude, changed perspective of life and a state of inner peace. This second approach has been dealt extensively and in-depth, in my book Peace of Mind in Daily Life.
The following tips can help you to relieve stress and release tension, or at least alleviate them.

10 Tips to Relieve Stress and Release Tension

  1. Pay attention to your body and to your muscles. Are they contracted and tense? Release the tension. Pay special attention to your face and scalp, and if you feel that they are tense, release the tension. If after a few seconds the tension returns, relax them again, until the tension disappears.
  2. When feeling stressed or tense, stand up, with you head and back straight, and take a few deep, slow breaths.
  3. Drinking a cup of water helps too. If you feel stressed or tense before going to sleep at night, a glass of milk, warm or cold can make you feel more relaxed.
  4. Think about the thoughts that are causing you the stress and tension. In many cases, it is possible that you have created a mountain in your mind that does not exist in reality. Thinking positively about the situation can you bring new ideas for solving it, and therefore, eliminate the stress.
  5. If the stress is caused by other people, talk to them about it. Don’t bottle it up. Sometimes, people don’t know what they are causing you, and a little relaxed conversation can do wonders.
  6. Find causes to laugh. Watch a comedy on TV, or read something funny.
  7. Leave everything that you are doing at the moment, and take a walk outside.
  8. Go to swim or to the gym. In fact, if you train yourself regularly, your stress level will become lower.
  9. Take it easy. Don’t pile up tasks, chores and goals. If you plan too many things to do you will probably feel stressed. Make a plan, but focus on one thing at a time.
  10. This tip, though simple, might not be easy, but it is extremely useful. Try to look with a detached point of view at the situation that is causing you stress. It is like taking a step back in your mind, and looking at the situation, and at your thoughts and feelings, as if from the outside, as if they have nothing to do with you and do not belong to you. This might be a little difficult, since in a stressed situation it is not so easy to stay detached. You will have to remind yourself over and again, to remember this tip. If you are able to develop a little degree of emotional detachment, you will have more inner peace.

 

Friday, August 10, 2012

How to Relieve Constipation Quickly and Naturally

Relieve Constipation Quickly and NaturallyConstipation is a symptom of decreased frequency in bowel movements, usually because it contains less water than normal. This guide explains how one can relieve constipation fairly rapidly, using natural means and items available almost universally.  

Steps

  1. Squat in a natural position to ease excretion. Prop your feet on a child's step stool and raise your knees when you sit on a toilet.[2]


  2. Drink two to four extra 8oz glasses of warm water when you feel constipated. [3] If you've had constipation over several days, drink 10-20 ounces of pure water the first thing each morning. [4]

    • In general, you should be drinking at least 10 glasses of warm water daily. Water is one of the best liquids that wash waste and toxins of our the body.[5] Other drinks, such as juice and soda, cannot compare regardless of how healthy or natural they are, because they tend to contain excessive sugar that could actually exacerbate constipation.
  3. Eat fruits, vegetables and other high fiber foods to increase your amount of fiber intake. Aim for at least 24 to 38 grams of fiber a day.[6] Constipation results from overconsumption of fats, refined sugar, and dairy in comparison to fiber from whole grains, bran, fruits and vegetables. [7]

    • Consider taking a fiber supplement even if you think you are able to get that much fiber from your daily meals.
    • Dietary fiber cannot be digested by enzymes in the human body, so it's not absorbed into the bloodstream. Fiber then remains in the colon, where it absorbs water and softens the stool.[8]
  4. Eat prunes and/or drink two glasses of prune juice. Prunes are especially high in fiber and contain sorbitol, a stool-loosening sugar that naturally helps relieve constipation. Sorbitol is a mild colonic stimulant that helps reduce transit time of stool and thus decrease the risk of constipation. [9] If you don't like the wrinkly texture or unique taste of prunes, prune juice may be a more palatable alternative.

    • Note that prunes have 14.7g of sorbitol per 100g, whereas prune juice has 6.1g per 100g. You will have to drink more prune juice to achieve the same health benefits because the prunes are processed, and you will have to take in additional sugars.
  5. If possible, avoid sitting down for 10 minutes and keep your body moving. Moderate to rigorous physical exercise is preferred, but even taking a low-key 30-minute walk will help your body promote healthy bowel movements.



Tips

  • If you don't have any health risks associated with sodium or other salts, you may wish to substitute water for liquid with electrolytes added, such as an athletic drink.
  • Adding a small amount of salt to each glass (less than 1/2 teaspoon) may also help.
  • The time between drinking the last glass and needing to use the bathroom will vary. Be patient, and follow the signals of your body.


Warnings

  • You may have a sudden need to urinate frequently, due to the increased water intake. Do not use this method if you need to drive or will otherwise not be near bathroom facilities for at least several hours.
  • Do not use this method in conjunction with laxatives; try one or the other, but not both at the same time.
  • Never strain or forcibly move bowels for any reason! Doing so may embed patterns of stress in your pelvic floor, which may appear as unexplained symptoms, and may take years to resolve. It can also lead to hemorrhoids.

 

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

How to Relieve a Tension Headache

Relieve a Tension HeadacheTension is a fact of life in our high-speed modern world. Here are several simple techniques to relieve a tension headache.   

Steps


Relax Your Eyes

  1. Rest your eyes periodically. Tension headaches are often caused by eye fatigue.
  2. Close your eyes, cup them with the palms of your hands, and apply light pressure for 2 minutes. Don’t be alarmed if your vision is blurry for a few seconds when you finish.
  3. Place wet peppermint teabags on your eyelids for 5 minutes. Closing your eyes will rest them as the peppermint soothes them.
  4. If you work on the computer, take a 10-minute screen break every hour. This is also a good idea if you’re in a movie theater or watching television.
  5. If the problem is chronic, visit your optician. You may need glasses.

Give Yourself a Mini-Massage

  1. Massage the temples, shoulders, neck or any other area where you feel tension. Tense areas are easy to recognize because they feel tight and hard.
    • Tension in the head, neck, and shoulders can often be the cause of headaches.
    • Essential oils can be incorporated into massage to aid relaxation.
  2. Massage your face. In particular, rubbing the temples, forehead, and area between the eyebrows can relieve tension. The fact that the face is so rarely pampered in this way will make it feel extra good.
    • If you clench your jaw or grit your teeth, make an effort to relax your face. Try yawning to reduce facial tension.
  3. Massage your hands. If you’re at a busy office or in public, massaging your hands can be a discrete way to relieve stress. Squeezing the pads of your palms and rubbing your fingers are especially effective.

Apply Heat or Cold

  1. Place a hot compress on your fore-head or the back of your neck. The heat will help to relax knotted up muscles in this area.
  2. Take a hot shower. If you don't have cardiovascular problems and can stand it, a steaming hot shower for 20 minutes can bring you fast relief.
  3. Apply an ice pack to your neck for 10 minutes. If the cold is too direct, wrap the icepack in paper towels or a moist facecloth.

Drink Something Calming

  1. Drink herbal tea. Many herbs, such as peppermint and chamomile, are said to have calming properties. Of course, the simple act of sipping a hot beverage from a mug is also psychologically calming, so be sure to go by whatever feels best.
  2. Have a cup of caffeinated coffee or tea. Caffeine reduces blood-vessel swelling, and thus can help to relieve a headache. This is why caffeine is an ingredient in some extra-strength painkillers like Anadin Extra.
    • If you enjoy and are used to energy drinks, they might be an acceptable substitute; however, the sugar might aggravate your headache, so use discretion.
    • If you are already a heavy coffee/tea drinker, don't try this. Caffeine withdrawal can cause headaches, creating a vicious cycle.
  3. Drink a glass of water. Headaches are often caused by dehydration, so try to increase your water intake to between 6 and 8 glasses a day. Even if you’re not dehydrated, the water might help flush out something that is stressing your body.

Inhale Soothing Scents

  1. Sprinkle a few drops of essential oil onto a tissue and inhale deeply several times. The cooling effect of peppermint is said to fight headaches and nausea while the soothing scent of lavender is said to relieve stress.
  2. Add herbs or essential oil to simmering water and let the scented steam fill the room. This is a great way to calm your mind while you attend to other tasks.

Calm Your Mind

  1. Spend some time relaxing your mind. Visualize yourself in a calm scene, such as a green forest or blue ocean, and enjoy your surroundings. How does the sunlight feel on your skin? How do the crashing waves sound?
  2. Listen to calming sounds. If you have a recording of natural sounds or a great rainy-day mix you can put on in the background, use it to mellow yourself out.
  3. Breathe slowly and deeply. Inhale slowly over 8 counts, pause, and then exhale over 8 counts; repeat for at least a minute.
    • In times of stress, the human body will default to breathing very shallowly; conversely, it is very difficult to remain stressed while breathing slowly and deeply.
  4. Use the restroom. Going to the bathroom can definitely provide physical relief, but if nothing else, having a quiet moment to yourself might be just what the doctor ordered.

Take a Painkiller

  1. Take an over-the-counter painkiller. If your relaxation techniques don’t work, aspirin, ibuprofen, or acetaminophen may help.
    • Remember that the relief provided by painkillers is only temporary; addressing the root of the problem is your ultimate goal.
    • Don’t overuse painkillers. Taking over-the-counter pain killers more than nine days a month can actually give you rebound headaches, a.k.a. medication overuse headaches.

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Tips

  • Try sipping a can of cola from a straw: there is a theory that the caffeine interacting with the aluminum in the can will relieve headaches. Though the jury is still out on this cure, some people swear by it.

Warnings

  • If you suffer from frequent or severe headaches you should see a doctor as soon as possible.

 


Thursday, June 28, 2012

Stress at Work

Tips to Reduce and Manage Job and Workplace Stress


Coping with Stress: Management and Reduction TechniquesWhile some workplace stress is normal, excessive stress can interfere with your productivity and impact your physical and emotional health. Finding ways to manage workplace stress is not about making huge changes or rethinking career ambitions, but rather about focusing on the one thing that’s always within your control: you. 

Coping with work stress in today’s uncertain climate

For workers everywhere, the troubled economy may feel like an emotional roller coaster. "Layoffs" and "budget cuts" have become bywords in the workplace, and the result is increased fear, uncertainty, and higher levels of stress. Since job and workplace stress increase in times of economic crisis, it’s important to learn new and better ways of coping with the pressure.

The ability to manage stress in the workplace can not only improve your physical and emotional health, it can also make the difference between success or failure on the job. Your emotions are contagious, and stress has an impact on the quality of your interactions with others. The better you are at managing your own stress, the more you'll positively affect those around you, and the less other people's stress will negatively affect you.

You can learn how to manage job stress

There are a variety of steps you can take to reduce both your overall stress levels and the stress you find on the job and in the workplace. These include:
  • Taking responsibility for improving your physical and emotional well-being.
  • Avoiding pitfalls by identifying knee jerk habits and negative attitudes that add to the stress you experience at work.
  • Learning better communication skills to ease and improve your relationships with management and coworkers.

Tip 1: Recognize warning signs of excessive stress at work

When you feel overwhelmed at work, you lose confidence and may become irritable or withdrawn. This can make you less productive and less effective in your job, and make the work seem less rewarding. If you ignore the warning signs of work stress, they can lead to bigger problems. Beyond interfering with job performance and satisfaction, chronic or intense stress can also lead to physical and emotional health problems.

Signs and symptoms of excessive job and workplace stress

  • Feeling anxious, irritable, or depressed
  • Apathy, loss of interest in work
  • Problems sleeping
  • Fatigue
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Muscle tension or headaches
  • Stomach problems
  • Social withdrawal
  • Loss of sex drive
  • Using alcohol or drugs to cope

Common causes of excessive workplace stress

  • Fear of being laid off
  • More overtime due to staff cutbacks
  • Pressure to perform to meet rising expectations but with no increase in job satisfaction
  • Pressure to work at optimum levels – all the time!

Tip 2: Reduce job stress by taking care of yourself 

When stress at work interferes with your ability to perform in your job, manage your personal life, or adversely impacts your health, it’s time to take action. Start by paying attention to your physical and emotional health. When your own needs are taken care of, you’re stronger and more resilient to stress. The better you feel, the better equipped you’ll be to manage work stress without becoming overwhelmed.
Taking care of yourself doesn’t require a total lifestyle overhaul. Even small things can lift your mood, increase your energy, and make you feel like you’re back in the driver’s seat. Take things one step at a time, and as you make more positive lifestyle choices, you’ll soon notice a reduction in your stress levels, both at home and at work.

Get moving

Aerobic exercise—activity that raises your heart rate and makes you sweat—is a hugely effective way to lift your mood, increase energy, sharpen focus, and relax both the mind and body. For maximum stress relief, try to get at least 30 minutes of heart-pounding activity on most days. If it’s easier to fit into your schedule, break up the activity into two or three shorter segments.

Make food choices that keep you going

Low blood sugar can make you feel anxious and irritable, while eating too much can make you lethargic. By eating small but frequent meals throughout the day, you can help your body maintain an even level of blood sugar and avoid these swings in mood. Read: Healthy Eating.

Drink alcohol in moderation and avoid nicotine

Alcohol temporarily reduces anxiety and worry, but too much can cause anxiety as it wears off. Drinking to relieve job stress may also eventually lead to alcohol abuse and dependence. Similarly, smoking when you're feeling stressed and overwhelmed may seem calming, but nicotine is a powerful stimulant – leading to higher, not lower, levels of anxiety.

Get enough sleep

Not only can stress and worry can cause insomnia, but a lack of sleep can leave you vulnerable to even more stress. When you're well-rested, it's much easier to keep your emotional balance, a key factor in coping with job and workplace stress. Read: How to Sleep Better.

Tip 3: Reduce job stress by prioritizing and organizing

When job and workplace stress threatens to overwhelm you, there are simple steps you can take to regain control over yourself and the situation. Your new found ability to maintain a sense of self-control in stressful situations will often be well-received by coworkers, managers, and subordinates alike, which can lead to better relationships at work. Here are some suggestions for reducing job stress by prioritizing and organizing your responsibilities.

Time management tips for reducing job stress

  • Create a balanced schedule. Analyze your schedule, responsibilities, and daily tasks. All work and no play is a recipe for burnout. Try to find a balance between work and family life, social activities and solitary pursuits, daily responsibilities and downtime.
  • Don’t over-commit yourself. Avoid scheduling things back-to-back or trying to fit too much into one day. All too often, we underestimate how long things will take. If you've got too much on your plate, distinguish between the "should" and the "musts." Drop tasks that aren't truly necessary to the bottom of the list or eliminate them entirely.
  • Try to leave earlier in the morning. Even 10-15 minutes can make the difference between frantically rushing to your desk and having time to ease into your day. Don’t add to your stress levels by running late.
  • Plan regular breaks. Make sure to take short breaks throughout the day to take a walk or sit back and clear your mind. Also try to get away from your desk or work station for lunch. Stepping away from work to briefly relax and recharge will help you be more, not less, productive.

Task management tips for reducing job stress

  • Prioritize tasks. Make a list of tasks you have to do, and tackle them in order of importance. Do the high-priority items first. If you have something particularly unpleasant to do, get it over with early. The rest of your day will be more pleasant as a result.
  • Break projects into small steps. If a large project seems overwhelming, make a step-by-step plan. Focus on one manageable step at a time, rather than taking on everything at once.
  • Delegate responsibility. You don’t have to do it all yourself. If other people can take care of the task, why not let them? Let go of the desire to control or oversee every little step. You’ll be letting go of unnecessary stress in the process.
  • Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to contribute differently to a task, revise a deadline, or change their behavior at work, be willing to do the same. Sometimes, if you can both bend a little, you’ll be able to find a happy middle ground that reduces the stress levels for everyone concerned. 

Tip 4: Reduce job stress by improving emotional intelligence 

Even if you’re in a job where the environment has grown increasingly stressful, you can retain a large measure of self-control and self-confidence by understanding and practicing emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage and use your emotions in positive and constructive ways. When it comes to satisfaction and success at work, emotional intelligence matters just as much as intellectual ability. Emotional intelligence is about communicating with others in ways that draw people to you, overcome differences, repair wounded feelings, and defuse tension and stress.

Emotional intelligence in the workplace:

Emotional intelligence in the workplace has four major components:
  • Self-awareness – The ability to recognize your emotions and their impact while using gut feelings to guide your decisions.
  • Self-management – The ability to control your emotions and behavior and adapt to changing circumstances.
  • Social awareness – The ability to sense, understand, and react to other's emotions and feel comfortable socially.
  • Relationship management – The ability to inspire, influence, and connect to others and manage conflict.

The five key skills of emotional intelligence

There are five key skills that you need to master in order to raise your emotional intelligence and manage stress at work.
  • Realize when you’re stressed, recognize your particular stress response, and become familiar with sensual cues that can rapidly calm and energize you. The best way to reduce stress quickly is through the senses: through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. But each person responds differently to sensory input, so you need to find things that are soothing to you.
  • Stay connected to your internal emotional experience so you can appropriately manage your own emotions. Your moment-to-moment emotions influence your thoughts and actions, so pay attention to your feelings and factor them into your decision making at work. If you ignore your emotions you won’t be able to fully understand your own motivations and needs, or to communicate effectively with others.
  • Recognize and effectively use the nonverbal cues that make up 95-98% of our communication process. In many cases, what we say is less important than how we say it or the other nonverbal signals we send out, such as eye contact, facial expression, tone of voice, posture, gesture and touch. Your nonverbal messages can either produce a sense of interest, trust, and desire for connection–or they can generate confusion, distrust, and stress. You also need to be able to accurately read and respond to the nonverbal cues that other people send you at work.
  • Develop the capacity to meet challenges with humor. There is no better stress buster than a hearty laugh and nothing reduces stress quicker in the workplace than mutually shared humor. But, if the laugh is at someone else’s expense, you may end up with more rather than less stress.
  • Resolve conflict positively. Resolving conflict in healthy, constructive ways can strengthen trust between people and diffuse workplace stress and tension. When handling emotionally-charged situations, stay focused in the present by disregarding old hurts and resentments, connect with your emotions, and hear both the words and the nonverbal cues being used. If a conflict can’t be resolved, choose to end the argument, even if you still disagree.

Tip 5: Reduce job stress by breaking bad habits 

As you learn to manage your job stress and improve your work relationships, you’ll have more control over your ability to think clearly and act appropriately. You will be able to break habits that add to your stress at work – and you’ll even be able to change negative ways of thinking about things that only add to your stress.

Eliminate self-defeating behaviors

Many of us make job stress worse with negative thoughts and behavior. If you can turn around these self-defeating habits, you’ll find employer-imposed stress easier to handle.
  • Resist perfectionism. No project, situation, or decision is ever perfect, so trying to attain perfection on everything will simply add unnecessary stress to your day. When you set unrealistic goals for yourself or try to do too much, you’re setting yourself up to fall short. Aim to do your best, no one can ask for more than that.
  • Clean up your act. If you’re always running late, set your clocks and watches fast and give yourself extra time. If your desk is a mess, file and throw away the clutter; just knowing where everything is saves time and cuts stress. Make to-do lists and cross off items as you accomplish them. Plan your day and stick to the schedule — you’ll feel less overwhelmed.
  • Flip your negative thinking. If you see the downside of every situation and interaction, you’ll find yourself drained of energy and motivation. Try to think positively about your work, avoid negative-thinking co-workers, and pat yourself on the back about small accomplishments, even if no one else does.
  • Don’t try to control the uncontrollable. Many things at work are beyond our control— particularly the behavior of other people. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems.

Five Ways to Dispel Stress

  • Take time away. When stress is mounting at work, try to take a quick break and move away from the stressful situation. Take a stroll outside the workplace if possible, or spend a few minutes meditating in the break room. Physical movement or finding a quiet place to regain your balance can quickly reduce stress.
  • Talk it over with someone. In some situations, simply sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust can help reduce stress. Talking over a problem with someone who is both supportive and empathetic can be a great way to let off steam and relieve stress.
  • Connect with others at work. Developing friendships with some of your co-workers can help buffer you from the negative effects of stress. Remember to listen to them and offer support when they are in need as well.
  • Look for humor in the situation. When used appropriately, humor is a great way to diffuse stress in the workplace. When you or those around you start taking things too seriously, find a way to lighten the mood by sharing a joke or funny story.

Tip 6: Learn how managers or employers can reduce job stress

It's in a manager's best interest to keep stress levels in the workplace to a minimum. Managers can act as positive role models, especially in times of high stress, by following the tips outlined in this article. If a respected manager can remain calm in stressful work situations, it is much easier for his or her employees to also remain calm.
Additionally, there are a number of organizational changes that managers and employers can make to reduce workplace stress. These include:

Improve communication

  • Share information with employees to reduce uncertainty about their jobs and futures.
  • Clearly define employees’ roles and responsibilities.
  • Make communication friendly and efficient, not mean-spirited or petty.

Consult your employees

  • Give workers opportunities to participate in decisions that affect their jobs.
  • Consult employees about scheduling and work rules.
  • Be sure the workload is suitable to employees’ abilities and resources; avoid unrealistic deadlines.
  • Show that individual workers are valued.
  • Offer rewards and incentives.
  • Praise good work performance, both verbally and officially, through schemes such as Employee of the Month.
  • Provide opportunities for career development.
  • Promote an “entrepreneurial” work climate that gives employees more control over their work.

Cultivate a friendly social climate

  • Provide opportunities for social interaction among employees.
  • Establish a zero-tolerance policy for harassment.
  • Make management actions consistent with organizational values.

 

Friday, June 15, 2012



Stress. We all deal with it. Whether it be our jobs, family life, drama with friends, a relationship problem, or finances, stress is there. While a little stress is probably good for you, it's the excess that does the harm. But there are ways of relieving it or distressing.






Steps


Quick Relief


    • Breathe
    • Smile :)
    • Visualize
    • Exercise
    • Organize

Stress Relief Methods

  1. Stop swallow breathing. Take a deep breath, as an immediate defense against stress. If you can get in the habit of realizing your stress level rising -- and then always taking a nice, deep breath every time you feel stress beginning to take hold, you'll have won half the battle just by preventing it from taking over. Don't just sigh; that is too often a sign of quitting or shirking a task.

  2. Create the habit of deep breaths: Why -- if you can get in the automatic reaction/habit of pausing and taking nice, deep breaths every time you feel stress beginning to take hold, you'll have won half the battle just by preventing stress from taking over.

  3. Visualize and communicate your vision. Whether you talk to a friend or talk to yourself, getting concerns off your mind will help a lot. If you don't feel like talking about it, write it down. Keep a journal and write down whatever it is that's bothering you. Writing is a therapy of its own.

  4. Laugh. Rediscover your sense of humor by making fun of your situation and allowing others to laugh without anger or disputing. View it from your future self's perspective, telling this story to a bunch of your friends over pizza and soda. Laughter, whether it's yours or someone else's, is the best medicine--and it's contagious!

    • Crack some jokes.
    • Do your goofiest impression.
    • Tickle a child that you love.
  5. Get fit. Perhaps your health and appearance are stressing you out, but even if they're not an issue, being physically fit can directly help relieve stress, which exists on both a mental and a physical level. Sometimes there's nothing like a long run, an intense yoga session, or a fresh swim after a stressful day to help you feel relaxed and stress-free again. Also, exercise releases endorphins; a feel good hormone. Chocolate releases endorphins as well (just only in moderation)!

  6. Be organized. For the most part, stress arises from feeling overwhelmed. Use a planner to keep track of your "TO DO'S".There's just too much to do, and not enough time to do it. Being organized and getting your priorities straight can help you break responsibilities down into manageable pieces and focus on the things that really matter to you, rather than getting caught up in details and creating extra work for yourself--all of which leads to more stress.

  7. Soothe the senses. Light a scented candle that has a calming fragrance like lavender. Listen to your favorite, most relaxing music or, better yet, go somewhere that you can listen to wind rustle through trees or waves crash on the beach. Enjoy the scenery, whether you're outdoors or viewing an art exhibit. Drink some warm tea or taste--really taste--some dark chocolate. Treat yourself by getting a massage or, if you want to be alone, take a bath (bubbles are recommended).

  8. Be aware of your choices; you always have a choice.

  9. Learn to say no; you cannot do everything you are asked.

  10. Learn how to delegate.

  11. Be thankful. It does wonders for your state of mind.

  12. If you need to apologize to someone, and it will not make the situation worse, find a way to do so. More importantly, learn to forgive, particularly to forgive yourself. Guilt adds pain to stress.

  13. Do nothing. That's right, folks, do nothing at all. Close the door, open the window, have a seat, and take a little break from life. If your mind is racing, learn to meditate and just let that stress go.

  14. Listen to music. Listening to music does wonders and is a great way to relieve stress, if it is not something that will make you feel worse. Listen to good songs that get you in a happy mood; and just forget about your problem. Music is known to be a significant mood-changer and reliever of stress. Ocean sounds tend to simulate calmness and serenity so, listening to a sound machine while lying down could help.

  15. Get a drink of water. If you're dehydrated that can lead to headaches, which just adds to the stress. So relax and get a cup of water.











Tips

  • Note that not all stress reducing activities will work for all people. Experiment with different techniques to see what works for you.
  • Imagery meditation. Meditating, concentrating or just emptying your mind while viewing tranquil scenery, either real or in video clips can help your mind let go of anxiety filled thoughts.
  • Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
  • Self hypnosis
  • Indian head massage
  • Walk in the rain
  • Dance to relieve stress
  • Relieving stress in the short term is a good idea, but resolving the underlying causes of stress is even better. If the same issues keep driving you up the wall time and time again, give some serious thought as to how they can be dealt with permanently. The following two examples illustrate the variety and usefulness of the self-help information which is available.
  • Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) teaches that it is not what happens to you, but what you believe about what happens to you that makes you stressed and depressed. (Ellis, 1975). You can do a lot to get rid of these feelings on your own by finding the irrational ideas which produce them, and debating with yourself until you have cast them out. Here is Ellis's list of potential culprits:

    • I must be perfect in all respects in order to be worthwhile.
    • I must be loved and approved of by everyone who is important to me.
    • When people treat me unfairly, it is because they are bad people.
    • It is terrible when I am seriously frustrated, treated badly, or rejected.
    • Misery comes from outside forces which I can't do very much to change.
    • If something is dangerous or fearful, I have to worry about it.
    • It is not easier to avoid life's difficulties and responsibilities,than to face them.
    • Because things in my past controlled my life, they have to keep doing so now and in the future.
    • It is terrible when things do not work out exactly as I want them to.
    • I can be as happy as possible by just doing nothing and enjoying myself, taking life as it comes.
  • In addition to getting rid of negative beliefs, it is necessary to acquire a set of positive ones, such as the following widely quoted Desiderata, written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s:

    • Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
    • As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak truths/ideals quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit.
    • If you compare yourself with others,you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements and learn from your mistakes. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
    • Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.
    • Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. .
    • Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
    • Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of God And whether or not it is clear to you, His plan is unfolding as it should.
    • Therefore be at peace with God . And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. .
    • Sometimes it helps to take a moment alone and have some peace and quiet, but in some cases it can make you feel worse. Talk to someone you know and trust. Voice how you feel and listen to somebody's suggestions.

Warnings

  • Be wary of escapism. Do not alleviate stress by doing something that'll only make it worse in the long run (e.g. buying a new pair of expensive shoes when what's stressing you is debt or taking someones problems into your own "hands." ).
  • Don't just suffer in silence.

    • Just as you would not hesitate to contact a physician for ongoing physical pain, you should not hesitate to contact a therapist for continuing mental pain.
    • A therapist is a professional problem solver, who can bring to bear all the insights of psychology to point out choices that you are not aware of.
    • Your physician may be able to prescribe medication to control anxiety and depression, or to help you to handle a particularly stressful situation.
    • Symptoms such as hearing voices that are not there, seeing things that are not there, or staying awake for several nights in a row, are signs of serious mental illness which require immediate psychiatric attention.
  • Do not make exercising and getting thin an addiction. This may add to your stress.
  • If you are feeling suicidal or feel like you might hurt yourself, get help immediately!

    • Call your local suicide prevention hotline, or the psychiatric hotline of a hospital in your area.
    • If you do not know where to call, your local police department will be able to provide you with assistance.